I am so excited about this Romance week!! I have such an exciting line up I thought I’d take a few minutes and let you in on some of the upcoming agenda. (Just “some” as this is only part of the fun to follow!)
However, before I get to that, I want to share my incredible Romance paradigm shift! I don’t know about you, and I’m sure several (yes I said several! — a little foreshadowing here!) of my guest bloggers would VERY MUCH disagree, but I have always thought of Romance as a feminine virtue. Relationship advice often leans toward “Romance your lady” and “Be Direct with your Man” in women’s magazines. I grew up drinking the Disney kool-aid and have, contrary to what I truly believe, occasionally hoped for a Prince Charming to save me. I like the color pink (although more recently enamored with orange) and I enjoy romantic movies and even an occasional romance novel. All this data has led me to the feminine romance conclusion but I am here to report that I have been wrong. very, very wrong.
I really don’t know how I could have been blind for so long! Anyone who knows me, or has even read my About Kathy page here on the blog, knows that I met my husband when I posted an ad on Craig’s List looking for someone to “Woo and Wow me forever.” More on his ongoing accomplishment in a minute. Lesser known is the fact that several other men also responded to my ad and wanted to give the Wooing and Wowing a try! I was told by numerous gentlemen, things like, “thank you for giving me permission to be romantic” and “thank you for saying what you wanted” and “thank you for leaving the dates up to me!” and I began a whirlwind of fantastically romantic dates.
It turns out, that there are plenty of men out there who relish the opportunity to do something romantic. They don’t want us to dictate every detail but they love it when we give them some basic directions. “I like to eat while watching a sunset.” Could be interpreted as a restaurant with an ocean view or a secluded picnic with a sunset view depending on the guy. I found out that men really had fun preparing a romantic woo-ful (ok so I like making up words!) date.
In the end my Sweetie blew them all away by combining three or more different “wooing and wowing dates” as part of each outing together, not to mention that he just looks at me in the sweetest most adoring way! After we had been dating a while, he once asked me to meet him at the airport with a bathing suit and a dress and took me to Maui for a long weekend! Even today, years later, our weekends are filled with trips and little surprises for me. He definitely gets romance but even so I still had the idea that Romance is a woman’s domain, believing that women want it and men don’t really care about it.
And then I met (figuratively, we only know each other from our blogs and twitter streams) three men who have decidedly smacked my old paradigm out to sea. These three guys breathe and fan romance wherever they go and you Bliss Habit readers are going to benefit from their romantic point of view. Man or woman, you will benefit from the following wisdom coming this week. (I’ll add all the links and full bios at the end of the week!)
- On Wednesday, Clay Andrews of The Path to Passion, will remind us that before we can romance others we will need to romance ourselves
- On Thursday, Masafumi Matsumoto will share about some habitual changes that can help one become more romantic in their life.
- On Friday, Sean Marshal, of Family Rocketship, will round out my panel of romantic men with his post on ways to supercharge your romance.
Get ready for a game changing trip into romance waters! I think this will be a lot of fun!!
What Romance paradigms do you have? Any of them worth a shift?
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Any of them worth a shift?”